I won’t bore you with the details but the past couple of weeks have been hectic, crazy, tiring, and emotionally draining. They have been filled with sever ups and downs. I was being pulled in 18 different directions and I was being stretched very thin. For the most part, I am extremely good at bottling up my emotions and moving on. I deal with my emotions but, try to do it when the time is appropriate. With that being said, I owe you all an explanation and an apology, particularly if you follow me on Twitter.
Side note: There will be no names used in this post. This isn’t a callout, it’s an explanation, an apology and hopefully an end to something ridiculous.
The weekend before last I wrote a post about why I do the Albany Tweetups. It was about what they mean to me and why I continue to put the time, effort and money into organizing them…not about how I did it first. Here’s a little back story…
In December a woman who runs a local marketing company put together her own tweetup in Albany. Her tweetup was more formal and business focused than the ones that I put together. There was even a seminar prior to the networking portion about how to use Twitter. It happened to be right around the same time that we were having our regular Albany Tweetup. There really is no problem, what-so-ever with that.
The problem arose because we were both using the same hashtag (#AlbanyTweetup) and if you searched for it, you found a huge amount of tweets that could make distinguishing the two events difficult. I tweeted from the @TweetUpAlbany account, which I use solely to promote tweetups, that we were not involved in that event just so there would be some clarification. There was a lot of behavior that could be considered “spammy” but I’m not trying to point fingers here…to each their own.
After I tweeted about the difference between the events, the other party retweeted something that I never said which made it look like I supported her event. A slight disagreement ensued on Twitter. My point was that it was inappropriate to retweet something I never said and to then spam the hashtag. The other person’s argument was that they used the hashtag first. My reply “I don’t give a sh** who used it first. That’s not the point.”
To make a long story short, there were words exchanged. Things got out of hand and I just threw my hands up in the air and blocked a few people. I was done and that’s the glory of social media…if I don’t want to see you online, I don’t have to.
I was pretty sure the whole thing was gone with 2009. Like I said, to each their own…you go your way, I’ll go mine. That was until last Monday when I saw this:
Fine…whatever. At first glance it looks like someone who just doesn’t get it and never will. I can deal with that and would prefer to ignore it. However, that link goes to the post I wrote about the Albany Tweetups. Now it’s personal.
This was the straw that broke the camel’s back…the thing that pushed me over the edge. The comment that made me go on a Twitter rant…
There’s a certain point that things get taken too far and those that want to lay claim on the #AlbanyTweetUp have done just that. 8:13 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
My post on why I do the #AlbanyTweetUp was completely personal & not part of the stupid pissing match that some would like to think it is. 8:15 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
You’re “lol” and whatever history of the hashtag you come up with mean NOTHING to me or anyone. It’s quality not quantity. Figure it out. 8:16 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
I’m not addressing you because it’s not worth my time. I blocked you both a long time ago. You do your thing & I’ll do mine. #AlbanyTweetUp 8:17 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
Your childish bullshit is getting old & obnoxious. Before I would have loved for you to come & see why we have fun. #AlbanyTweetUp 8:20 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
Now, please don’t ever consider coming to anything that I plan. Obviously you don’t get the point. You took it too far. #AlbanyTweetUp 8:21 PM Jan 18th from UberTwitter
And for that, I truly apologize…not to the person/people I was addressing but to everyone else. I should not have done that on Twitter and really should have let it go. It just hit a nerve and I was off. Again, my sincerest apologies.
Here’s my point (you thought I would never get here, didn’t you?); I put everything I can into the Albany Tweetup because, in a way, they have been a life line for me. Maybe I wasn’t personal enough in my post about them but the friendships and connections I’ve made through them are invaluable to me. I can’t thank everyone enough for coming and making it a night that I look forward to. So, I don’t care who used the hashtag first. I don’t care if someone else uses it for their own. I care about the experience that I create and the people that I meet and taking the time to enjoy the company of those that are there.
Final note: I know that was a long and tedious post…my apologies for that, too. I just needed to get it out and hopefully it’s the end of it all. No mean comments please…about me or anyone else. Character bashing gets us no where.